The Five Gateways

Overview

Self-Awareness

Self-Acceptance

Self-Confidence

Self-Actualization

Self-Realization

What Are The 5 Gateways?”

Humans grow and evolve physically through clearly identifiable stages. We star off barely being able to turn over or toddle around the room, and we end up the same way. Our growth through these stages is inevitable. We cannot skip any stage unless we die prematurely.  Let’s call this Physical Growth.

As we get older, we trade physical ability for life experience. Although we all accumulate some form of life experience, our emotional and spiritual development are not enviable. We can (and many of us do) get stuck along the way and start to get rigid emotionally.

Many people have studied both physical and emotional growth, and often give names to the stages they see.  I have looked at many of these models and discovered a simple pattern that tends to correspond to Abraham Maslow’s Pyramid of Needs.

As I studied Maslow, Jung, Wilber and many others, I realized that there is a simple way to understand and teach how emotional growth shows up And, more importantly, I realized that growth through the early stages can be taught and learned.

The First Gateway

The first stage is simple self-awareness. If you don’t know who you are and what makes you tick, you can be a walking time bomb. So developing self-awareness is the first challenge to growth. To understand this, imagine yourself standing outside the fence around a beautiful garden. Perhaps you want to see the garden more closely,, but you discover a locked gate. The ere is a sign on the gate that says, “The Key Lies Witching You“/ This is the metaphor for the first gateway. Self-awareness lies within you  It’s there for you to discover.

The Second Gateway

As you wander around in the garden, some feelings arise. You realize that something is not right in your garden. Perhaps you discover little stone benches that each have different messages. The first one says, “Are you aware of how you are seen by others?” Does this question fill yuo with compassionate curiousity or fear, guilt and shame?

Another message might be “How many self-limiting beliefs to you have? Do you hold any “I am not good enough” eliefs?

The 2ns Gateway focuses on looking into the mirror of yourself and healing the wounds that limit you. We will look at behaviors that either deepen or bust connection with other, with a focus on defensive behaviors like denial and projection. We will explore how your body speaks to you and how wall you do (or do not) listen when it speaks. You will lean how to transform limiting beliefs into empowering beliefs about yourself. And we will take a close look at ny wends you may still be carrying from yuorchildhood.

The Third Gateway

This workshop is all about skill building. You will lean how to listen deeply, to replace critical judgment with compassionate curiosity, how to spot and change the unconscious patterns in your life that cause you problems.

You will also develop a clear sends of your values and how they show up (or don’t show up) in your life. You will  explore accountability and integrity, yuor personal mission, vision and purpose.

You will learn how to ground yourself nd be less reactive and more stable in your relationships with others. And you will learn the simple tricks creating connection with others. 

 

The 4th Gateway: Actualization

Do you have a driving passion about something you want to create? Imagine what it took to create Mount Rushmore? This was created becuse and by one man had a vision that he felt a driving need to creae.

If you have he self-actualization bug, you will know it. Not everybody does have it.  It can’t be taught but it can be coached.

The 4thGatewasy is an intensive coaching process that will help you recine and stay on track with your own personal vision.

Mount Rushmore - HISTORY

Characteristics of Sefl-Actualiztion

  1. Self-actualized people embrace the unknown and the ambiguous.
  2. They accept themselves, together with all their flaws.
  3. They prioritize and enjoy the journey, not just the destination.
  4. While inherently unconventional, they do not seek to shock or disturb.
  5. They are motivated by growth, not by the satisfaction of needs.
  6. Self-actualized people have purpose.
  7. They are not troubled by the small things.
  8. Self-actualized people are grateful.
  9. They share deep relationships with a few, but also feel identification and affection towards the entire human race.
  10. Self-actualized people are humble.
  11. Self-actualized people resist enculturation.
  12. Despite all this, self-actualized people are not perfect.

The 5th Gateway: Self-Realization

Actualization vs. Realization

Characteristic

Self-Actialization

Self-Realization

Definition

To realize fully ones potential

Fulfillment by oneself of the possibilities of one’s character or personality

Origin

Mainly a western psychological concept initially coined by Kurt Goldstein

Mainly an eastern spiritual concept, especially in Hinduism.

Proponent

Adapted into humanistic psychology and popularized by Abraham Maslow in his Hierarchy of Needs.

Adapted into western thought by psychodynamic theorists like Carl Jung and Karen Horney.

Self and it’s Parts

Primarily includes only identity and consciousness

Includes the unconscious.

How the self relates to the world

The self relates primarily to the outside physucal world.

The self relates primarily to an inner metaphysical world.

Behavior / characteristics of a person

    • Creativity
    • Deep interpersonal relationships
    • Inner peace
    • Strong spiritual fulfillment

Common Usage

Humanistic psychology: everyday life outside of relation and spirituality.

Psychodynamic perspective of personality; everyday life in the context of religion and spirituality.