Connexions

Helping Men Become Better Men

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Are You…

  • Facing a mid-life crisis?
  • Dealing With Divorce?
  • Lonely because you have no friends?
  • Depressed but don’t want to take meds?
  • Can’t get a date?
  • Suffering from poor social skills?
  • Feeling overwhelmed by life?
  • Frustrated with how long counseling takes?

 

If you checked any of these boxes, it is time to explore personal coaching.

See the testimonials below to see what some people have said about my coaching, teaching and facilitation skills.

Do You Need…

  • Someone who will listen to you with compassionate curiosity?
  • Someone who will call you on your bullshit?
  • To be liked?
  • Someone who will be clean, clear and direct with you?
  • An Elder who has been around the block a few times?
  • Someone who can help you become a better man?
  • Help with anger management?

 

About Bob Jones

​I grew up in a highly dysfunctional family and learned to hide my fears, my sadness and my anger by becoming a computer software developer. Computers don’t judge me. They were safe. I wrote some amazing programs, some of them way ahead of their time. 

When I made it into my 50’s, I began to realize that, although my programming skills paid the rent, there was something missing. I was troubled by self-limiting beliefs like “I am not good enough” or “I am not loveable”.

In 1991 I took a training called “Context, The Pursuit of Excellence“. It had the same lineage as “The Forum” from Landmark. This was my introduction to personal growth work. And that growth work persists to this day.

Later in the 90’s I took basic training in Gestalt. We sat in circles and spilled our guts. At times, it was brutal. As we sat in circle and went deep, the almost constant refrain was, “Bob, you are in your head”. At first, this was rather annoying,  but it started to scare me. “What am I missing?” I asked myself. The answer I heard, spoken quietly in my ear was simple: listen. So I started listening to others with as much conscious awareness as I was able to muster. Slowly, I learned to hear the difference between speaking from my heart instead of my head.

In 1999, my counselor attended a training from the Mankind Project called “The New Warrior Training Adventure“. I took this training in November, 2001. It saved my marriage and my life. Now, over 20 years later, I have staffed this training over 50 times. It has been integrated into my life in more ways than I can count.

If you want to connect with me and get a 15 minute taste of coaching, please click the button below. If you simply want to have a conversation, click the other button. Looking forward to hearing from you.

Bob

About CoachHere is what I can offer you.

COACHING

I will help you develop the tools, the skills and the self-awareness to become the man you want to be.. I am well trained in the principles of personal coaching. I am not a cheerleader, but an experienced elder with decades of experience.

TEACHING

I love to teach others about personal growth, and have developed and presented many classes that range from 30 minutes to many days. I often work with others and coteach their materials. All my content is focused on developing real self-awareness, self-acceptance and emotional maturity.

Click Here for a list of upcoming courses.

CONSULTING

If you have problems with managing money, I can help you learn to manage it effectively. I am not an accountant, but I do know how to define and apply the basics of managing money. I have also been a software developer for over 50 years and know both the benefits and consequences of technology.

FACILITATING

I have sat in over 1,000 men’s circles in the past 20 years. I have been trained how to create safe circles where men can unburden their fears and get support from the entire circle.

Use the Contact Me or the Schedule A Free Coaching session below to learn more.

True Confession

I can’t spell. Never could… still can’t.

I never learned to touch type, either.  

And I have macular degeneration which means that I slowly going blind.

My doctor and I agree that this makes me an immaculate degenerate.

Donna, my partner of 50 years (almost) reads everything I write and catches most of my errors, both in typing and in thinking. 

So my invitation to you is to laugh with me at our  own shared humanity, and let me know of any errors you find. 

 

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Coaching Testimonials

Bob Jones is an authentic and real (no bullshit) man

Bob is an authentic and real (no bullshit) man. I have been consistently impressed with Bob’s ability to get right to the heart of the matter and to work with men in a straight forward, honest manner. Bob is able to provide a safe container where all emotions are welcomed and acknowledged. Working with Bob has been transformative.

~Frank Z

I highly recommend Bob Jones as a personal coach

I highly recommend Bob Jones as a personal coach, and I’ll tell you why. After all my many years of personal growth work, Bob remains one of the mentors I respect and admire the most. When I met him 12 years ago in a men’s training, his experienced leadership style made such an impact on me that to this day I credit him with inspiring me in my own journey to become a leader.

~Greg S

Pours love into his craft

For anyone looking for a personal coach who has outstanding personal integrity, followed by organization and consistency, look no further. This man takes his word seriously and follows through on his commitments. He is accountable and down to earth, he can relate with you. Bob possesses a treasure trove of knowledge and wisdom that he has gained over the years that can be taught and put into very practical steps.

~Jason M.

Bob is very dedicated to this work.

Bob shows up. He is direct and he will push you and listen to you. He has a nice model and he is a good partner. He has done a ton of his own work and has lots of tools to draw on. He is very dedicated to this work.

~Dave K

Bob has an amazing ability to hear people’s input

Bob has an amazing ability to hear people’s input and openly accept even criticisms without reacting. His total lack of reaction to criticism created a space for total trust. Participants who brought up trust issues quickly flipped to opening up in a trusting way, risking the vulnerability to make changes quickly. 

~Laura

Highly recommended!

The ConneXions workshop offered a wonderful and insightful deep dive into human relationships – what it means to connect and what keeps us from connecting more fully. I left the workshop clearer on what I want from life and how I can go about getting it. I also formed the beginnings of several meaningful relationships with the other participants. Highly recommended!

~Peter S

Bob is a very intuitive person

Bob is a very intuitive person.  I have observed him in multiple situations where he counseled men with wisdom and intuition. Over the years, he has learned and used may techniques to help men grow personally and find their mission in life.

~Raymond B

Bob listens with his heart

Bob is an active listener. He listens with his heart. He compassionately guides people to feel the depth of their emotions / experience and gently explore the path to an answer, solution, resolution, idea. When needed he can draw on the transformative powers laser sharp, precision cutting questions/ Statements as a way to slash through the bullshit and get to the root, the cause, the source. He is a devoted man to the growth, harmony and connection of others to self, family, community and beyond. 

~Jade B

Bob’s elder energy promotes trust and encourages risk

Bob is a man with tremendous energy for communication who can focus on the details while maintaining a broad view. Bob has extensive life experience and is open to new learning and points of view.  He is curious and has respectful ways of engagement and processing which allow clients to develop at their own pace while still being challenged. Bob’s elder energy promotes trust and encourages risk.

~Michael S

Bob can be an incredible resource for men seeking to find purpose and connection in life.

I’ve known Bob for several years now and have always been impressed by his depth of knowledge and commitment to connection and personal growth. You can expect his full attention, passion, and energy to help you better understand and work through what might be holding you back in life. Bob is especially knowledgeable and active in the particular issues that often come up for men. He can be an incredible resource for men seeking to better understand and express themselves and to find purpose and connection in life.

~Peter S

Bob Jones listens with compassionate curiosity

Bob Jones listens with compassionate curiosity and then asks thought provoking questions that tend to strip away the BS and gets a man to see and feel for his own truth. In that way, Bob is a guide through the darkness.

~Tim T

Bob has the ability to see through the fog

I have had the pleasure of working with Bob Jones in men’s group work for the past several years. As a facilitator, Bob has a keen awareness and the ability to see through the fog.  He is a caring, compassionate no bullshit sage, who helps you to commit to the work at hand.

~Jamie Y

I feel acknowledged, heard and held in loving presence.

Bob has a grounded presence that makes communicating with him a pleasure. I find myself easily sharing with him. He is able accompany me without judgement. I feel safe and held with his inquiries, like walking and talking with a loving grandfather.

~Musa K

He asks the right questions

Bob is a caring and compassionate individual who is able to safely take a man, through dialogue, to a place where they need to go in respect to seeing barriers and opportunities of personal growth. He asks the right questions which has helped me step up to my power, versus wallowing in my crap.

~Glen S.

Master of understanding the dynamics of relationships

I’ve watching Bob facilitate many processes during which someone had a significant “a-ha” moment and they claimed back a huge chunk of their power, choice, and joy. Bob brings a huge depth of caring and sweet fierce curiosity that results in one feeling totally heard, valued, and energized.

~Cory B

Bob exceeds as a coach

If coaches are to be measured by their ability to get others to do the things they don’t want to do, in order to be the people they say they want to be, then Bob exceeds that measure. It’s not about advising, telling, and preaching; what I have received from Bob is a fierce challenge of my choices and an inspiring reawakening to my priorities.

~Phil L

I learned a lot about myself in a short period of time

Working with Bob helped me to rediscover the mature and sovereign parts of me. I felt safe to explore the depths of my subconscious that I had repressed, I learned a lot about myself in a short period of time, and I experienced rapid personal growth. Now I have an improved ability to access the version of myself that I want to embody, where before I only experienced that reality in moments that were fleeting and unpredictable.

~Zach S

I am a changed man

I am a changed man. I no longer carry around the emotional baggage that was holding me back. With previous therapists, the pace of change was glacial, With Bob, I am gob smacked by how much can happen in only 40 minutes!

~Frank Z

I trust Bob’s feedback

The ability to consistently give direct, honest feedback while being kind and compassionate is a challenging skill to acquire, and in my opinion Bob has mastered it. I trust Bob’s feedback because he’s committed to continual self-growth. Like a mirror, he reflected some “gold” in me that I had not yet been able to fully acknowledge in myself. 

~Greg S

I have always been struck by Bob’s balance

Over the years, I’ve watched Bob’s keen insight and intuition unlock higher potential in others as well. I’ve always been struck by Bob’s balance of being both an intellectual, and living fully from his heart. On top of all that, he just gives me really good advice.

~Greg S.

Having him on my “team” has been transformational

I appreciate so many aspects of  working with Bob!  I always feel his deep caring and support for me, which makes it safe for me to drop in and feel the stuck feelings that I usually resist.  This has been tremendously valuable, as it has opened up a log jam and I feel more connected to my creativity – I have been painting every day which has been a life long dream, but I was having trouble getting myself to take action.  Bob has a huge heart and has learned so much in his life – having him on my ‘team’ has been transformational.

~Paula H

Teaching Testimonials

Most helpful in helping me grow

I am on a journey. This weekend has been most helpful in helping me grow and become more positive in my life.

~Richard

I appreciated Bob’s humility

The content of the workshop was deep, rich and stimulating. The manual is superb and greatly appreciated. Facilitation was authentic, transparent, passionate and sincere. I appreciated Bob’s humility, Ipswa’s fluidity and assertiveness and Howard’s openness. Clearly all 3 of you bring huge heart to this mission of connection and awakening. 

~Sharon

Recognizes difference and still willing to learn

Caring, willing to devote much attention to what he believes in. Lot’s of thought goes into what he does. Intricate mind, able to analyze lots of information. Long term involvement. Wants to see the world as a better place for future generations. Able to overcome physical challenges. Determined to do what is perceived as right. Compassionate with a firm grasp on his own mortality. Wanting to bridge gaps. Recognizes difference and still willing to learn. 

~Mark D

Excellent teacher and mentor

Bob is an excellent teacher and mentor and puts a lot of care into his work and will no doubt put all of that into anyone who may be looking. He also has a calmness and empathy that radiates feelings of safety and understanding. Bob truly pours love into his craft and it shows! He can help you.

~Jason M

Facilitation Testimonials

Pours love into his craft

For anyone looking for a personal coach who has outstanding personal integrity, followed by organization and consistency, look no further. This man takes his word seriously and follows through on his commitments. He is accountable and down to earth, he can relate with you. Bob possesses a treasure trove of knowledge and wisdom that he has gained over the years that can be taught and put into very practical steps.

~Jason M.

A Seasoned facilitator

A Seasoned facilitator with a full spectrum of experience, Bob brings wisdom and tools to canvas the landscape of possibilities. Able to analyze, solve, reconcile and mediate the interactions and dynamics between parties, Bob can cross the continuum between feelings, such as empathy & compassion, and decision-making, such as clearings & dispute-resolution.

~Bryce

Clear insight into each person’s emotional needs

Over the years, thanks in large part to Bob, I have grown emotionally and I now see myself as a person among people much more clearly rather than a person who is less than (or greater than) another.  

~Dave G

Dedicated to truth

I have known Bob Jones for more than 10 years. I’ve never met a man so dedicated to the truth. Whether that be my truth or his truth, he holds both dear. I’ve been mentored by Bob on many occasions. He has a unique ability to see through my BS and fearlessly calls me on it.

~Phil L.

Bob has an amazing ability to hear people’s input

Bob has an amazing ability to hear people’s input and openly accept even criticisms without reacting. His total lack of reaction to criticism created a space for total trust. Participants who brought up trust issues quickly flipped to opening up in a trusting way, risking the vulnerability to make changes quickly. 

~Laura

Highly recommended!

The ConneXions workshop offered a wonderful and insightful deep dive into human relationships – what it means to connect and what keeps us from connecting more fully. I left the workshop clearer on what I want from life and how I can go about getting it. I also formed the beginnings of several meaningful relationships with the other participants. Highly recommended!

~Peter S

I appreciated Bob’s humility

The content of the workshop was deep, rich and stimulating. The manual is superb and greatly appreciated. Facilitation was authentic, transparent, passionate and sincere. I appreciated Bob’s humility, Ipswa’s fluidity and assertiveness and Howard’s openness. Clearly all 3 of you bring huge heart to this mission of connection and awakening. 

~Sharon

Recognizes difference and still willing to learn

Caring, willing to devote much attention to what he believes in. Lot’s of thought goes into what he does. Intricate mind, able to analyze lots of information. Long term involvement. Wants to see the world as a better place for future generations. Able to overcome physical challenges. Determined to do what is perceived as right. Compassionate with a firm grasp on his own mortality. Wanting to bridge gaps. Recognizes difference and still willing to learn. 

~Mark D

Bob listens, uses his intuition, and gives honest feedback

Bob is an enthusiastic, passionate man who cares deeply for others.  Bob has years of experience working with men who are trying to answer the question of who they are and what motivates them.   He listens, uses his intuition, and gives honest feedback.  Bob has the ability to go with the flow and adjust to meet the needs of those he is working with.  He has a great sense of humor. 

~Tauri S

Bob Jones is intelligent, compassionate and insightful

Bob is intelligent, compassionate and insightful, He has done his own work and is deeply invested in helping others to do theirs. He has the gift of seeing others wherever they are on their path, lovingly challenging them to move in a positive direction, and offering them a wide array of exercises and practices to facilitate that movement.  

~Stephen C

He asks the right questions

Bob is a caring and compassionate individual who is able to safely take a man, through dialogue, to a place where they need to go in respect to seeing barriers and opportunities of personal growth. He asks the right questions which has helped me step up to my power, versus wallowing in my crap.

~Glen S.

Excellent Listener

Bob Jones is an excellent listener and able to hear the deeper message, beneath the words being spoken. His generosity of heart and commitment to change, result in a clarity of purpose and direction. When I am around Bob Jones I know that he will come up with some “out of the box” ideas that stretch me to expand my thinking of what’s possible

~Chris G.

Master of understanding the dynamics of relationships

I’ve watching Bob facilitate many processes during which someone had a significant “a-ha” moment and they claimed back a huge chunk of their power, choice, and joy. Bob brings a huge depth of caring and sweet fierce curiosity that results in one feeling totally heard, valued, and energized.

~Cory B

His most endearing trait is humility.

Bob draws on a long history of experience and ability, and his most endearing trait is humility. When I’ve had the privilege of seeking counsel with Bob I found a safe harbor where I could regroup with support and find a new way through some of the pitfalls in my journeys.

~Phil L

Excellent teacher and mentor

Bob is an excellent teacher and mentor and puts a lot of care into his work and will no doubt put all of that into anyone who may be looking. He also has a calmness and empathy that radiates feelings of safety and understanding. Bob truly pours love into his craft and it shows! He can help you.

~Jason M

I have always been struck by Bob’s balance

Over the years, I’ve watched Bob’s keen insight and intuition unlock higher potential in others as well. I’ve always been struck by Bob’s balance of being both an intellectual, and living fully from his heart. On top of all that, he just gives me really good advice.

~Greg S.

Personal Testimonials

Bob is a man of integrity

Bob is a skilled facilitator. He has offered me compassionate support in my personal growth journey. I trust and respect his leadership. He is a man of integrity who is committed to supporting men who want to improve their lives. Bob  demonstrates great listening and a skill set that helped me gain clarity and move in the direction of my goals

~Dave S

Dedicated to truth

I have known Bob Jones for more than 10 years. I’ve never met a man so dedicated to the truth. Whether that be my truth or his truth, he holds both dear. I’ve been mentored by Bob on many occasions. He has a unique ability to see through my BS and fearlessly calls me on it.

~Phil L.

I appreciated Bob’s humility

The content of the workshop was deep, rich and stimulating. The manual is superb and greatly appreciated. Facilitation was authentic, transparent, passionate and sincere. I appreciated Bob’s humility, Ipswa’s fluidity and assertiveness and Howard’s openness. Clearly all 3 of you bring huge heart to this mission of connection and awakening. 

~Sharon

Recognizes difference and still willing to learn

Caring, willing to devote much attention to what he believes in. Lot’s of thought goes into what he does. Intricate mind, able to analyze lots of information. Long term involvement. Wants to see the world as a better place for future generations. Able to overcome physical challenges. Determined to do what is perceived as right. Compassionate with a firm grasp on his own mortality. Wanting to bridge gaps. Recognizes difference and still willing to learn. 

~Mark D

Bob is a big teddy bear with a large heart of gold

Bob is a big teddy bear of a man with a large heart of gold who is an exceptional listener, insightful and skilled facilitator and overall warm and friendly guy to be around. His methodology involves deep listening, understanding how a man constructs his world and then identifying where the blind spots are. He does this in a sensitive way, with warm curiosity, patience and good humor.

~Millan P

Bob knows how to produce!

First and foremost, I’ve experienced Bob as curious and insightful.  His curiosity is driven by a heartfelt desire for connection.  Bop’s insight is manifest in an ability to see systems and link them to outcomes.  I’ve seen Bob take feedback and stay present in the face of divergent options and friction.  And Bob knows how to produce!

~Josh W

Excellent Listener

Bob Jones is an excellent listener and able to hear the deeper message, beneath the words being spoken. His generosity of heart and commitment to change, result in a clarity of purpose and direction. When I am around Bob Jones I know that he will come up with some “out of the box” ideas that stretch me to expand my thinking of what’s possible

~Chris G.

His most endearing trait is humility.

Bob draws on a long history of experience and ability, and his most endearing trait is humility. When I’ve had the privilege of seeking counsel with Bob I found a safe harbor where I could regroup with support and find a new way through some of the pitfalls in my journeys.

~Phil L