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Background

Given my 15+ years of experience of  leading Primary Integration Trainings (PIT) in both BC and Washington state, it was a natural progression for me to become a visiting guest magician for I-Groups. This has worked very well, but it did involve several hours of driving and a late night border crossing.  When Covid-19 raised its ugly head, Zoom became the go-to tool for people all over the world. Many MKP I-Groups now meet regularly using Zoom.

During the past year, I have undergone an intensive process of refreshing and enhancing my coaching skill set, and discovered that these skills are an excellent fit with my guest-magician experiences. I get to integrate my deep experience with PITs and I-Groups with some very advanced coaching skills that have helped me deliver considerable value to these I-Groups.

Out of this experience, I have realized that I am in a unique position to take this work even deeper by coaching individualI-Group members.  The BC Board has agreed to conduct an experiment to determine objectively whether coaching can yield a quantifiable improvement in the overall I-Group experience.  The assessment on this page is an experiment to find an answer to this question.

The Program

The BC Board has agreed to conduct this experiment by supporting my outreach to BC I-Groups and inviting those groups to identify men within their I-Groups who may benefit substantially from the coaching experience. Two men from the BC community will be  offered the opportunity to sign up for a 10 week structured coaching process.

The members of the I-Groups will each take this assessment and rate the skill set of the man selected for coaching The selected man will also take this assessment. The selected men will then be responsible for raising $800 CAD to pay for this experience. Upon completion of the coaching experience, the I-Group members and the coached man will take the assessment again to quantify any changes in the man’s skill set.

Upon completion, the man may ask the BC board for a reimbursement of 25% ($200)

When both men have completed this process, the BC board will determine whether to expand or terminate this experiment. .

If this experiment yields positive results,the BC Board may choose to roll it out across the rest of the community, and I already have plans to begin rolling it out in the Northwest area next. It is conceivably possible that this program may be so successful that other areas and regions decide to adopt it as well; but let’s focus on first things first.

Instructions

This assessment serves two purposes.

  1. To perform a self assessment of one’s I-Group skill set.
  2. To assess a member of an I-Group that the group wants to support by helping him deepen his I-Group skill set

When completing this form for someone other than yourself, please make sure to spell the assessed person’s first and last names correctly. This makes analysis of the resulting data much easier.

As each assessment is completed, I will receive the results automatically. When all assessments for a given I-Group are completed, I will generate an analysis and will share that with both the I-Group and whomever else the BC Board decides should see it. This applies to both the before and after assessment results.

Note that the names of the assessors will not be included in the analysis: only the name of the man being assessed.

 

I-Group Skills Assessment Survey

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  • What is the name of the person being assessed?
  • What is the name of the I-Group this person sits in?

  • I-Group Participation

    How actively does he show up as a participant in the I-Group? Does he engage openly or hold back and only watch?
  • Demonstrates personal integrity in his life by having a strong moral compass and walking his talk.
  • Communicates clearly, cleanly and directly without drama. Takes ownership and responsibility for his choices.
  • Consistently uses I-Statements without needing to be reminded to do so.
  • Demonstrates willingness to share deep feelings and take responsibility for his own emotional safety while doing so.
  • Demonstrates awareness of his own thoughts, feelings and behaviors and the impact (intended or unintended) of his choices on others.
  • Models compassionate curiosity by asking questions, admitting that he doesn't know without being defensive and holding both himself and others with compassion while constantly learning.
  • Demonstrates personal accountability by keeping agreements with others, renegotiating agreements he cannot keep and processing broken agreements cleanly
  • Participates fully in I-Groups by showing up regularly and on time, understanding and leading the various phases of each meeting and by modeling both emotional vulnerability and willingness to step out of his comfort zone.
  • Creates emotional safety for others by suspending judgment, holding others with compassionate curiosity and by listening deeply.
  • Withholds judgment of others and himself.
  • Demonstrates understanding of the concept of Shadow and awareness of his own shadows
  • Can receive feedback without getting defensive. Listens to feedback and asks constructive questions to clarify feedback.

  • I-Group Facilitation

    These questions relate to his skill as a facilitator of the I-Group Warrior and Magician round processes taught in the PIT and IGHT.
  • Shows that he understands the accountability process and can run a man through this process from end-to-end without assistance.
  • Demonstrates cognitive and emotional understanding of the four masculine archetypes and how these archetypes can inform his understanding of self and others.
  • Demonstrates ability to listen deeply and draw people out by using requests like "Go deeper" and "What's underneath that?" Models clear understanding by reframing and reflecting what he has heard.
  • Demonstrates an understanding of the clearing process and the projections that drive it. Can facilitate the clearing process end-to-end without support.
  • Understands and can listen to what a man says then summarize it and reflect it back to him to make sure his is being understood.
  • Demonstrates facilitation skills by being able to draw on a range of tools and by using his intuition effectively. Knows how to "lead from behind".
  • Understands What's at Risk process and when it should be used. Can run this process without support.
  • Understands how to use Bucketing process effectively and can facilitate this process effectively

  • I-Group Leadership

    These questions relate to how well he shows up as a leader witching the I-Group.
  • Gives helpful and constructive feedback when asked to do so.
  • Manages time available for each I-Group phase or process effectively.
  • Demonstrates awareness that his culture and beliefs may be different from that of others and shows a willingness to learn about those differences.
  • Demonstrates ability to access appropriate archetypal energy based on the needs and demands of each moment.
  • Pushes himself through any fears he may have of conflict with others, deals with conflict with directness, and honesty, sets clear boundaries when needed and holds compassion for self and others during this process.
  • Demonstrates an understanding of Emotional Literacy and Emotional Maturity, understands the difference between the two and models a high level of emotional maturity both in I-Group and his life.
  • Willing to make mistakes and shows mature ways to take responsibility for having made a mistake. Models how to learn and grow from mistakes.
  • Demonstrates effective leadership by modeling personal integrity, vulnerability, effective listening and clean, clear and direct communication. Takes responsibility for his choices and a willingness to make mistakes and learn from them.